I had the 2nd 'joint' session with the mom yesterday. I got there with just a moment to spare. She said that she had bought me something that she loved and wanted to meet me at my car afterwards to give it to me. I replied that I had to get back to the office ASAP and couldn't do it.

So she then said that she just wanted to give it to me and it would only take a moment.
I replied again that I had to leave immediately afterwards and could not do it.

We are greeted by the therapist and go into the room.
While therapist is getting something situated - she asks for a third time.
I look at her and say more emphatically that I had to get back to the office immediately.

The therapist starts talking about 'boundaries'. The mother says she doesn't violate my boundaries. But she admitted to reading my journal - but it was after I had moved out of the house and it wasn't 'private like a diary'. Therapist and I looked at each other...

Then I cited the example of what went down in the waiting room. The mom still didn't get that she was pushing. Therapist tried to illustrate it further but all the mother did was get dramatic and teary-eyed.

I feel myself totally shutting down emotionally when she goes in that direction.

Then we brought up the issue of her constantly coming to my home after I had told her in writing and on the phone to NOT come to my home or contact me in any way - to the point of threatening a restraining order - she said she wasn't 'contacting' me by writing me or leaving things at my door with notes attached.

The therapist suggested we get 'tea' together. I told her that in no way did I feel that anything had changed to the point where we could interact outside of a therapeutic environment. That she hadn't 'gotten it' at all and I had utterly no clue how to manage my own side of things without feeling like I was compromising myself for her benefit.

I don't know what else we're supposed to do. I hold no hope.