I was at an after-hours work function last night, talking in-depth to someone about potential business. The room was rather noisy, so we had deliberately moved to a corner to hear each other.
Then a woman comes up to us and throws herself in the middle of the conversation. We both looked at her like "You're interrupting us" but she didn't get it. We tried to placate her for a moment and send her on her way.
But she wouldn't go. I figured if we split up and regrouped later, that we'd be able to eliminate the problem. I tell business contact that I'm going to the ladies room and we'd continue our discussion in a few minutes.
Annoying lady follows me into the restroom!
She says that she heard I was all connected and she wanted to know who I could "hook" her up with.
Did I mention that I was in a stall peeing at the time?
I ignored her. Spent an eternity post-flush, hoping she'd go away.
But she didn't.
So I finally to to wash my hands and she's all over me about who I know and what I can do for her.
Professionally, I'm an avid networker but I do it out of generosity, not obligation. This woman was REALLY pissing me off. I decided to try a different approach.
I asked her what she did. She said that she wanted a job that made her as much money as she made her boss.
I said that's great but that doesn't tell me anything. I asked her if she was looking for a job.
She said "You didn't see me here tonight!"
Um, okay.
I ask her what kind of job she's looking for. She goes back to the 'making as much money as she made her boss' reply. I ask her if she could be more specific - is she interestd in sales? She says yes. I ask what type of sales. She says 'technology'.
Could she possibly be more vague? I gave up trying to figure it out. I ask for her card and I'll pass along her information if anything comes up. (I deliberately don't give her one of mine.)
So I leave the bathroom and she's following me again. There are at least 100 other people in the room - WHY WON'T SHE MOVE ON!?!?!?! I try to ditch her again, introducing her to someone that I had met previously, hoping that I could unload her on him.
It worked.
For about 3 minutes.
I was back in conversation with the potential client and she interrupts me again. I ignore her. Potential client is annoyed as well and follows my lead.
She then stands between us and grabs my arm to ask me how much my company pays me. (O.M.G.!!!!)
I take a deep breath. Step back and tell her that I was having a private conversation and I didn't know anyone that could be of service to her. I said to the potential client "Let's find an area where we can continue our conversation uninterrupted."
Remember I said I didn't give her my card? Well, she got one off someone else last night and she's left me two voicemails and two emails in the past 10 hours.
Can you imagine what she must be like with a guy she's interested in????
posted by: ammegan (reply)
post date: 05.30.07 (6:35 am)
hehehe! good one..
posted by: scubadiva (reply)
post date: 05.30.07 (6:47 am)
Reply to: ammegan
You want me to give her your email addy?
posted by: ammegan (reply)
post date: 05.30.07 (7:04 am)
posted by: ruined (reply)
post date: 05.31.07 (4:06 am)
Fatal mistake #1 while looking for a job... annoying anybody who may be a potential helper in your search. If you bite that source, you can kiss any success in the hunt good bye. What was she thinking???
posted by: scubadiva (reply)
post date: 05.31.07 (4:32 am)
Reply to: ruined
I was at another event last night - met a good 10 people that would have been great referrals for her. I passed the information along of another candidate I met to all of them. ;)
When I refer someone, it's a reflection on myself. I'm sure they'd love a caveat like "this woman cornered me in the bathroom...but I'm sure she'd kick-ass and stalk the hell out of clients..."