There is someone I consider a friend that continually makes statements that really bother me. It makes me wonder if he is ever actually listening to me.

Backstory: back in December I met "Hot Stud". Amazing guy. Looks something off the cover of a romance novel. Longish hair, intense eyes, amazing body. Haven't dated anyone so far off the Hunk-o-Meter in eons. But, it wasn't his hair or his body or his looks that attracted me to him. He's intelligent, driven, funny and sweet - and those things I found attractive and sexy about him.

Unfortunately, due to "Hot Stud's" work schedule (and I'm guessing other females), our dates have been maybe once a month. And they've been non-existent since early May. He still calls regularly and expresses interest in getting together, but nothing ever develops. He feigns its work, but I think we all know he's not THAT busy.

"Hot Stud" is a great guy but he's also not the type to settle down with one girl. He said he was open to it - but apparently if he is, it's not me. So I've sort of resigned myself to "Hot Stud RIP". That's life. He was amazing for my somewhat deflated ego and made me laugh. No point in dwelling in someone that doesn't want the same things I do.

Now back to this friend of the male persuasion. He keeps saying that I need to quit focusing on Hot Studs and give short fat guys a chance. I repeatedly have explained to him that someone's exterior has very very little to do with my attraction to a guy. I am not superficial like that and have never been that way. Friends that have seen pictures of guys I've dated in the past have commented that many of them were not particularly attractive at all - and, I guess, from first impressions they may not have been, but I look deeper than that. I've never been someone that's been swept away by first glances, it's like a slow burn, getting to know someone - and often it isn't even the words out of their mouth, it's the actions. I pay close attention to the little things.

I realize that I'm no supermodel and I don't want someone to judge me and be attracted to me by my exterior. If they were, I wouldn't want them to be in my life. They better value my intelligence, humor, passion, loyalty and ability to accessorize. (kidding).

So anyway, it's been on my mind since that conversation last night. Someone's physical appearance isn't even on my top 10 list of things important to me in a partner. Maybe when I was 15, but I'm not 15 anymore. I realize what is really important.

A really big dick.

(Kidding!!!!!)