I haven't seen my mother since before Thanksgiving (that I can recall), it might even be longer. She lives 10 mins away. I've told her repeatedly on the phone that I need some space but she has pushed and pushed nonetheless. Calling left and right. I haven't returned the calls. Writing me. I haven't responded except once - with a reply begging her to please back off, that I need space and ask for her to not contact me for a while because I'm working some stuff out. Did she listen? Of course not.

She came over and let herself in my home, uninvited. I didn't see her (I was upstairs in my office) but I was quite emphatically telling her to get the hell out of my house or I was calling the police. (That was mid-December). I also demanded that she return my key and my 2nd garage door opener (repeatedly). Still the calls continue on a weekly if not more basis. And I don't return them. She sent a letter mid-February and I sent it back.

Last week, she left a message saying she had a new umbrella for my back porch and it was 'urgent' that she get it to me. (Right, urgent...) I didn't reply.

She called again this afternoon and came over. (I didn't answer the phone or the door.)

I'm sending her one final letter telling her that if she attempts to contact me again in any shape form or fashion, that I will be requesting a temporary restraining order against her. It sounds horrible and harsh - but I don't know how else to make my point to her. Had she backed off and let me have some space and returned my stuff, it would have signaled to me that she was willing to respect some boundaries and perhaps there was hope. Instead, to hell with whatever I need, she has her own agenda and knows what's best for me - even though she doesn't have a clue what has been going on. It's sad. Really sad because I feel like shit and the bad guy for having to do this, but interacting with her causes so much more chaos... I'm still struggling and need as little disruption in my life as possible.