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The Next Step
01.30.06 (9:43 am)   [edit]

Tomorrow I'm meeting with civil attornies about pursuing the case against Todd, the guy who drugged and raped me. I've printed out emails, IM conversations leading up to it as well as interactions with some people on a message board about the experience. I initially contacted an atty in September but she hasn't exactly been responsive. The Rape Crisis Center gave me another firm and this firm seems more on the ball.

I'm not nervous about spilling the beans on everything - to this day, I have yet to tell anyone the details of it. I wish I wasn't going alone though.  My biggest fear is that they are going to not take the case. I'm not out for blood - I don't even care about the money - it'd be great to get reimbursed my my medical bills (in excess of $20,000 now) and counseling (I don't even know how much that is). If there was some sort of settlement or judgment, I wouldn't want his money - I would want to donate it to the Crisis Center or use it to get county policy changed in regard to how women that report sexual assault are handled.

I was told that filing the police report would be empowering. It was anything but. And how the police have handled it since has been nothing but a slap in the face. I am not disillusioned to think that some sort of civil judgment is going to make me whole again, to undo what I've gone through and erase the pain and physical damage he's done to me. Still, I want to make sure that there is a paper trail - so that when he does it again, there will be a record.
 
So tomorrow morning, I could use all the positive vibes you can send my way.
 

 

 


posted by: almsthvn (reply)
post date: 01.30.06 (5:16 am)

You've got them, girl. Will be thinking of you extra-specially tomorrow morning.



posted by: surrogate (reply)
post date: 01.30.06 (5:47 am)

I'm glad you've kept at this even though it's painful. Whether it's empowering or not, doing what you're doing is the right thing to do.

Good luck tomorrow.



posted by: GottaLuvMe830 (reply)
post date: 01.30.06 (6:01 am)

My thoughts will be with u!



posted by: chicalookate (reply)
post date: 01.30.06 (6:11 am)

Mucho positive thoughts coming your way. And big hugs too. Good luck.



posted by: onebadjen (reply)
post date: 01.30.06 (6:47 am)

good luck! and the offer still stands about hunting him down and ass raping him with sandpaper.



posted by: rosietulips (reply)
post date: 01.30.06 (6:54 am)

I wish you the best of luck with this. {{hugs}}



posted by: beadjunkie (reply)
post date: 01.30.06 (8:39 am)

if anything hopefully this helps with getting you some closure on the incident.



posted by: lynne (reply)
post date: 01.30.06 (12:21 pm)

I will send all kinds of positive thoughts. And you know, if he ever does this to anyone again, your doing this will make that things a bit easier for that woman. And any little bit helps, right?



posted by: JT (reply)
post date: 01.30.06 (8:25 pm)

Diva, I am behind you 200 percent. I wish I'd had the knowledge and the cojones to do this when it happened to me. You are a brave, powerful woman, and we are ALL so proud of you!!!



posted by: IdleBob (reply)
post date: 01.31.06 (1:58 am)

Not just us. All those innocent young women who will one day find strength to stand up to such horrendous crimes and take the perpetrators to law, because you set the example. Strength to you my lady, for you are an angel.



posted by: ScubaDiva (reply)
post date: 01.31.06 (2:38 am)

Ironically, I got a call yesterday from the DA's office chief investigator. (Went to VM) I don't know if the attorney I'm seeing today has already called over to the DA's office to put some fire under them or if this just was a coincidence.



posted by: LarryConley (reply)
post date: 01.31.06 (8:50 am)

Rope, Tree, Rapist...

Some assembly required.

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