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| Update - He called. |
| 04.27.04 (7:54 pm) [edit] |
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(this is an update to my entry 2 weeks ago titled "Heavy") He called me today (my father). I saw the number on caller id and let it go to voicemail. I tried calling my mother and got a busy signal. (I swear she's the ONLY person in the country that does not have call-waiting.) I finally get through, and sure enough, he called her next. I had discussed with her prior to sending him the card about not disclosing much information to him - merely that it was important for him to participate. Yet she let a lot slip - that I was home on disability, that I had a number of other complications, several surgeries, etc. He told her that he decided to call her because I "had not returned" his calls in the past. (WTF - he hasn't reached out to me once in SIX years - he lives less than 10 minutes away!) She said his explanation for taking 2 1/2 weeks to figure out who the Lupus Study postcard was about. (Um, it had my return address, in my handwriting and said that it was regarding his parent or child - his parents are deceased and I'm the only child.) I emailed my mentor to get his feedback - he said to call my father - that it was my "moral obligation". (I think he was distracted on a conference call for a bs response like that.) So, I did call him back - fortunately, I got voicemail. Left a very flat message saying I was returning his call. Awaiting him to respond. Not sure if I want to go any further with this... |
posted by: chicalookate (reply)
post date: 04.27.04 (5:47 pm)
I wish this wasn't so rough for you. His excuses seem like just that excuses. Maybe you can just play phone tag for a while. Maybe try email?
posted by: ScubaDiva (reply)
post date: 04.27.04 (6:11 pm)
Reply to: chicalookate
I don't have his email and he doesn't have mine. I went thru the motion of returning his call - hopefully, that will be the end of it. I doubt it though. I don't need the stress he would bring into my life.
posted by: lynne (reply)
post date: 04.27.04 (6:51 pm)
That he called you might be a good sign. He might be willing to participate in the study and that is what you really need right now, no?
posted by: qutepie2 (reply)
post date: 04.30.04 (7:27 pm)
I agree with Lynne. It's a step in hopefully the right direction. It might be a small baby step, but you need this.
posted by: ScubaDiva (reply)
post date: 04.30.04 (9:13 pm)
As I rambled on before - I did return the call, but he has not responded. It doesn't surprise me. I'm moving on... I have people in my life that help to fill the void that he chose to create. I'm so fortunate to have them in my life.
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