I have so many other dating debacles to detail - some rather juicy - but I'm tired so I thought I was share the story of the last time I was "set up"...
In one of my circle of friends, I'm pretty much the only single one left. So occasionally, they feel obligated to try to drag me into that so-called marital bliss. (But they never really look that blissful, you know?)
Anyway, my friend "D" (I think she has a link to my blog - and I don't want her to scan it to have her name pop out - she's too damn busy and happily married to read through all of this because she knows most of my dirt.) told me over lunch that she had "someone" that she wanted me to meet. (Inside I'm rolling my eyes thinking - oh god, not again!) But "D" has never set me up before and she seems sorta cool so I don't give my standard reply of "I've decided to take another sabbatical from dating for a while" response.
"D" tells me Matt (it's his real name) is a jr. partner at "the" biggest law firm in town. (One of the biggest in the country). I tend to date a lot of atty's (not the ones you see on tv hawking personal injury stuff)- they generally are bright, love debate and have a sharp wit. He's fluent in french (moi aussi), he loves to travel (ditto), and he loves horses (I used to ride ALL the time). She asks if she can give him my number, I say "what the heck".
So Matt calls me. He sounds remotely normal. Smart. Good sense of humor. Little bit romantic. Not a total workaholic. So far, he looks pretty good on paper and hasn't blown any of my criteria for dating. He asks me to meet him a cool quiet hip restaurant for dinner later in the week. We exchange a few emails back and forth in the interim and no red flags are coming up.
Meet him at the restaurant. He's on time, not unattractive but he reminds me of someone but I can't put my finger on it. Chat chat chat. Meanwhile my mind is trying to figure out who he reminds me of. Then it hits me - he is a DEAD ringer for my stepbrother. OMG. I'm laughing inside.
Conversation is flowing fairly well. (I used to date another atty at his firm, so I am careful what I say...) He starts to tell me about this huge amount of property he bought south of the city to build a ranch and house for his horses. I think that's cool. He started riding 2 years ago - never been on a horse before then. I'm kinda thinking that he's kinda REALLY into his horses. He's got a temporary barn built for them - and then he tells me how he sleeps at night in the barn with the horses. (HUH?) They just seem to rest better when he's there. He gets up and goes to his condo intown, showers and goes to work. EVERY weekend he spends with his horses.
About that time, I'm wondering why in the world this guy is still single? Could it be because he's looking for that special girl that doesn't mind sleeping on a bale of hay in a barn every night while watching reruns of Mr. Ed?
I know in my list of "Dating Rules" (posted a few days earlier), I said they need to be an animal lover. They need to love animals, but not "LOVE" animals. He took "horse lover" to a new level in my book. For some reason, I decided not to see that catch again.
Neeeeeigh!
posted by: ScubaDiva (reply)
post date: 04.23.04 (5:49 am)
I don't think he would have wanted me to come between him and his horses. I mentioned on our phone call that I loved riding and hadn't gone in a while (Perfect oppty for him to invite me to ride instead of sitting at a restaurant...) Now I understand why... ;)
LMAO! Thats like the guy I used to date who spent ALL of his time washing his motorcycle, drying it, waxing it, polishing it, caressing it. I must say.... I was jealous of that damn thing!