I hate the holidays. I'm pretending that I'm looking forward to spending the day alone. On the otherhand, I don't really want to be around people either.
I admit. I am depressed. I feel overwhelmed.
People are calling me wishing me happy T'giving and I'm trying to pretend like I'm gracious. I just got teared up when I talked to a friend from out of town when he asked me how I'm doing.
I'm regressing back to old behaviors of changing the subject when I'm asked how I'm doing.
Hot Stud came over last Sunday night to help fix my clogged vacuum. He'd been busy all day working in his own yard. As always, he looked utterly divine.
He made my vacuum suck again, which was a good thing. Then he started doing other things like checking my air filters in my heaters to make sure I'm warm with the pending cold spell.
I could tell he was exhausted. I told him that I wanted to give him a massage. (Remember, he's a massage therapist by trade...) Had him on the bed (yum!) and really worked on his shoulders/back. Maybe he was full of crap, but he complimented me profusely saying I'd be an awesome massage therapist.
He ended up falling asleep. So I just continued gently rubbing his feet. After a while, he woke up, wanted to snuggle sleep. (I totally dig that!) We snuggled and he slept.
When he woke up, we had a discussion that completely caught me off guard. I had mentioned while I was massaging him that I had gotten a 'booty text' late the night before from a guy I hadn't seen in a year. I saw that caught his attention. I replied to the texter that I'd be right over. (I had no intention of going but thought I'd teach the booty-texter a lesson.)
Hot Stud said that he wasn't seeing anyone else. That he just was tired of it. That he was getting older and it didn't hold the appeal it once did. That he wanted to spend more time with me.
Inside, my jaw was on the floor. We met three years ago and I've been keeping my feelings in check (as much as I could) for him. I've dated furiously to try to find someone that could top him. Now, I'm not saying that wedding invitations are on order. But, it's a nice acknowledgment. I've been loyal, non-demanding, and supportive. I tell him from time to time that I love him - but peppered in a way that isn't so overt. "I'm saying this because I love you..."
Despite this news, I didn't go nuts. I'm cautiously optimistic. But I'm not retreating from the dating pool. I met someone this week that asked me to go to the Falcon's game on Sunday, but I can't go... I have to channel my inner Martha Stewart/Betty Crocker. I decided to bake Thanksgiving cookies/treats for all of my 38 customers (and deliver them) next week. (What the F was I thinking?)
New boss is really raining on my parade. He's a nice guy, but we don't 'click'. He has a very 'salesy' approach that is completely opposite of my approach. He can come off as condescending and dismissive to potential clients. Asking someone to commit to more than $25k in advertising in one appointment isn't usually a one appointment deal. And he spends literally no time asking them about their own marketing challenges, goals etc.
The atmosphere in the office is... definitely down.
He is the boss, and I have to deal with it. I'm open to pick up some nuggets of wisdom - I'm of the belief that I can always learn from others. I'm struggling with finding a way to integrate what he does, with my own style. I've been doing really well the past few months - because I've developed a style that is completely different from his.
But he's saying that we have to do 'his' presentation with his PowerPoint, verbatim. So much so that he's got CDs burned of his presentation for us to play on the way to appointments.
(Seriously!)
I love my job - the part where I manage my client's accounts, and educate them about marketing. I don't dig my time in the office - the amount of micro-management going on is growing by the day. It's getting to be really hard to jump through all the hoops.
Realized i didn't post what happened at the chiropractor's office on Thursday.
I had a 5pm appt. I got there 5 mins early.
Two minutes later, a woman came in with three girls between 2-4 years old.
Lovely.
The cretins were running all over the place. That high-pitched screaming that is just below what only dogs can hear - that one that makes your ears bleed.
I kept my mouth shut, figuring I'd be called in at any moment.
5:15
They smell like dirty diapers.
I didn't have a headache when I got there, but I had a raging one now.
Screaming continues.
Then one of the demons takes off her own very 'dirty' diaper right in front of me.
Then, she says 'Mommy, I have to potty.'
And not 18 inches in front of me, she pees on the wood floor.
I jerk my feet up, to avoid getting splattered.
It's 5:45.
The mom, who has been completely ignoring her children, looks over and says 'why did you do that?'
Then she yanks the kid up into the restroom in a manner that would concern CPS.
With that, I got up and left.
Trying to post with my brand new phone...
The doc's office called me yesterday afternoon, apologizing for what happened the day before. Offered me a free massage. That was nice of them because we all know I could use one.
I got a spiffy new phone this week. (Apologies if I accidentally call you - I'm still trying to figure the damn thing out.)
Manually entering tons of phone numbers does tend to lead to a couple of incorrect entries...
I didn't realize that the phone 'announces' the name of the caller when they call.
Me sitting in a lunch seminar yesterday. It's fairly intimate. 12 people. I thought I had my phone on vibrate.
All of a sudden we hear a computer-generated announcement coming from my pocket. "Ass hole Calling. Ass hole Calling. Ass hole Calling." I realize... it's my phone. And it's my boss calling. We are all laughing hysterically. Guess I shouldn't have re-named my new boss that on my phone?
I went for a 4 mile run today at noon before the Falcons game started. It's 55 outside. And sunny. But windy as heck. Makes for chilly running. I did it in 51 minutes. With hills. About a 13 minute mile. Apparently freezing ones ass off makes you run faster. I've been having pain around my left shoulder-blade since the car accident in Feb 07. Running seems to make it hurt a lot more. Chiropractor I've been seeing says I need regular intense massage due to scar tissue around there. (Have I mentioned Hot Stud is a Massage Therapist that has never given me a real massage?) As well as giving up my high heels. (Like THAT's going to happen.)
Came home. Had lunch. Had shower. Gave myself a facial. Pedicure. (Blood red) Manicure. (neutral color) Did laundry. Watching Falcons kicking some Saints butt.
Don't my toes look cute? It's a shame they are covered up. I guess I'll need to head somewhere warm to show them off.
I have a ritual of staying in bed on Saturday mornings for some quiet time. I read, I write and drink coffee in bed. I'm sitting here, relaxing a bit - all of a sudden I smell something most foul.
Tux. Farted.
How something so small and relatively cute can create such a foul and looming odor is beyond me. Really. How does he get it to linger like that?
I had quite a colorful experience today.
I had been involved in a car accident in December of last year.
I was hit from behind and that propelled me into another car.
The police were idiots. They weren't concerned about going after the guy that hit me.
The report stated that I 'believed' I was hit.
Um, the back of my car was all dented up.
The police diagram didn't match the damage to my car.
All that said, I am assigned a court date of February 2008.
I take the afternoon off, head over there. Parking was a nightmare, have to hike in the cold, blah blah blah.
And then I see that my case has been 'rescheduled'.
Until September.
I head back down there in September, again case 'rescheduled' until October.
Last month, I hike back over there.
I plead not guilty.
Told there will be a notice for trial.
I get the notice 2 weeks ago.
After having to take off all jewelry for security, I'm told to go to courtroom 3.
I have a seat.
20 minutes later, the clerk calls me up, and asks my name.
Tells me I'm not on the docket.
She sends me to courtoom 1.
Which is like a sardine can.
This is where people plea.
(What I've already done.)
I am stuck on a bench between two very smelly men that 'don't mind' being this close. One reeks of pot, the other of smoke and beer.
Oh boy.
The judge starts going over the instructions.
I don't want to get up while she's speaking.
So I sit there for another 45 minutes.
(I'm anxious hoping I'm not getting considered a no-show somewhere else.)
Then I try to politely flag down one of the deputies (that has already told me twice the wrong information. He tells me to ask the clerk in this courtroom.
This clerk tells me I'm in the wrong room. To go back to the previous room.
I explain to him that they sent me to him.
This supervisor is more interested in finding who took her pen. I offer her one just to get the ball rolling. No, she wants to leave me there, at this window, while she goes walking around bitching for 5 minutes looking for her pen.
It's a pen. (She has my license, otherwise I would have left.)
She tells me I'm suppposed to be in the original room I was in.
I reiterate that they expelled me.
She called up there.
No one answered.
So she writes me a note.
I go back to the original room, give the clerk my note.
She has to call the supervisor, bitching about it.
Supervisor didn't answer the phone - no doubt she's looking for her pen.
I'm told to 'sit down'.
I get to listen to some seriously ridiculous defenses.
(Doesn't anyone ever watch court tv shows closely?)
I wonder how the judge puts up with some of the crap.
One woman claimed she had her seat belt on because she always wears it and she had turned around while driving because she thought she recognized the police officer and that's why it looked like she didn't have it on.
Then a police officer said for three different cases that she 'didn't remember the case'. So they were dropped.
Next we had a guy busted for possession of pot. But the police officer was 'nice' and only ticketed him for 'loitering in a known drug area'. Still, the guy got really disrespectful. So the judge found him guilty and said before she fined him, that she'd have him do a drug test. (Oh Snap!) He got rather... skiddish. Ended up in cuffs. (I'm going out on a limb that he's spending the night behind bars.)
Finally, it was my turn. But there were no other police officers there. My case was thrown out for the officer failing to appear.
I know this sounds nutty, but I wanted my case heard - not dismissed on a technicality.
Still, at least I'm not spending my night in jail.
(Although the night is still young!)
I hate Tmobile. I have had the end of my contract date marked for more than a year. It ends on Sunday.
A week ago, I went online to order a new phone/service through a site called "Wirefly." I got my Tmobile phone from them 2 years ago. Their pricing on equipment is much better. But you effing pay for it tenfold with the frustration.
I sign up online. Then I get an email saying my order is canceled. (WTF? I didn't cancel it.)
So then I go online chat. They tell me they need to verify my home address. I need to send a copy of my Drivers License and a utility bill. (I've lived at my current address for almost a decade, wouldn't that be verified on my credit report??)
I fax it over. I call back and they say it takes 24 hours to confirm. I wait. I called back 24 hours later. They never received it. I refax. Five times to make SURE they got it. (Making a point.) I wait another 24 hours. I call back to confirm. Then they say I didn't include a copy of my ss card I tell them they never told me that.
So I fax the ss card to them. I wait ANOTHER 24 hours. They didn't receive it. I fax it ten times to make sure there was NO way they didn't get it.
I call back the next day. (Now I would have said screw the $200 difference and gone directly into the store, but I didn't want a 2nd credit report pulled...)
They tell me that they are evaluating it. What. The. F...
So then I get a call this morning form someone obviously from India on my vm. She says I need to confirm information on my application. I have to replay the message 8 times and have two coworkers helping me try to figure out the phone number. And the application number was more than 20 numbers/letters and she said them fast - twice - and I got 2 of them.
I'm seriously ready to kill someone by this point.
She has me repeat a bunch of information already on my application - my address and crap like that. I have to get her to repeat information because I cannot understand this woman. AT ALL.
Then she tells me I'm approved for up to 10 lines. Um, great. I only want one.
I asked that they deliver the phone to my work address. They won't do it. I ask if they can require a signature at my home because the dumbass fedex guy last time left a flat panel tv on my front door. (It was gone when I got home.) They wouldn't even note to require a signature. They'll make me go through effing hoops to make sure I'm who I say I am, but once they ship the phone, they don't give a flip.
It took 10 days to get approval. I"m scared to death that the number porting will be screwed up more.
Undate last night was ok. He wore pants to cover all his tattoos. However one of the main dudes that runs the place came over to me, asking me who my stud of the evening was. (I have brought someone different each time...) Introduced him and then the 'undate' went to the restroom. He said "You're dating HIM????" I chuckled, said I did 5 years ago. Before he was into tattoos. He said that I have a very colorful harem.
Undate smokes. NO cigs, lighters at the fish tank. He was jonesing after an hour to smoke. It was a looooong ass walk to my car to get them - and even then, you can't smoke on the premises. Translation loooooonger walk off site then back to my car to put lighter in car and then back to the fish tank. (He'd need another one just for all the walking!) So by 2 hours in, he was ready to go.
I took him to the top of the parking deck for a spectacular view of the city for his smoke. (Perfect place for a makeout, but NOT with him.) Dropped him off at his car afterward (as he reeeeeeeeked of smoke.)
He went in for a kiss. I turned my face so it went on the cheek. Um, yeah.
I have an un-date with the former bf/bipolar artist tonight. He wanted to go to the fish tank, and there is a VIP event there tonight. Figured it was a way to get him in free and see it uncrowded.
I feel frumpy today. I'm wearing short heels (3 inchers). I'm having a good hair day though. I still hate the color.
I got to my polling place at 6:20. I was 15th in line. I had my mp3 player and some coffee while I waited. I had to endure some ass behind me going on and on about how Obama is all about change. I'm texting a friend waiting in line elsewhere. I notice how this ass is reading over my shoulder what I'm texting.
So I decide to incite him a bit.
I text that I think the majority of Obama supporters are merely lemmings that are too easily persuaded by repetitive messages, parroting snippets without having a clue of policy and implications. That their entitlement attitudes continue to show their own inability to achieve anything of substance on their own.
That got him riled up. I pretend that I don't realize that he's reading what I'm texting. I'm listening to my music and absorbed in the exchanges.
So then I start texting some pretty racy things. I won't repeat what I texted, but I did at the end write "Obama Fucker standing behind me, are you enjoying reading this you ass?"
He shut up. As we were waiting for 7am to roll around, we were standing by a large sample ballot. He was looking at all of the other issues/offices that were on the ballot. He was asking all sorts of questions about them.
I couldn't help myself. I said "Of course a savvy educated voter like yourself is aware that there is more on the ballot than Obama, aren't you?"
I was done voting by 7:09. He was still scrolling through the ballot - of course he couldn't read without moving his lips.
The line as I was leaving was quite long - out the door and around the building.
If you read postings from earlier in the week, you read that I had an unfortunate incident at a new hair salon where I went in for a cut/color. I'm a redhead, although I admit that I have been 'kicking up the color' since I was... 15. Being a redhead has always fit my personality.
Lots of men are very attracted to that red hair. One of them being the local radio personality I've been seeing on/off for two years. (Much more off than on). Anyhoo, he showed up at my office a few weeks ago - we had a smooch. Suddenly, he's interested in me again. I'm not asking why. My interest is more along the lines of "why now?" He's rather swamped with the election stuff for the next week, so things have been limited to calls/emails. He seriously has a weakness for redheads.
So Thursday, I sent him a text message. I told him I had some news that would probably change how he feels about me.
Not 10 seconds later, he calls. I guess he was thinking something really wacky - like I have STDs, I'm getting married, I've decided to vote for Obama, or I dunno.
I tell him I'm no longer a redhead. (I can hear the sigh over the phone.)
He laughed and said my appeal goes much further than my hair color. And I'd always have the spirit of a redhead.